PARENTS JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND!

Getting frustrated with your parents? Are they always having an input on your life and what you say or do?  Well let's give this another perspective shall we.......

(Unfortunately there are people out there who may have parents that say harsh things to be mean, or are just not nice parents who don't do things in the best interest for there kids. It's up to YOU to know the difference.)

You may feel that whatever your parents have to say is infuriating because sometimes they react before knowing all the information or they might just be old fashioned and it's not done the same way now in life.  The problem is that there's too much concern about what your parent's saying or how they're saying it.  Yes listen to what your parents are saying but also READ IN BETWEEN the lines.  Your parents are the most concerned about you so if they are just cursing or screaming to get there point across they are just that much more passionate about YOU. 

 Yes, sometimes parents are not good with there words because they're old fashioned!! Realize that your parents want you to grow and experience life and some don't want you to do anything because they are just fearful for you but either way your parents will always be the EMERGENCY BREAKS in your life even when you've grown to have all the experiences your meant to have in life.  You will get to experience anything you truly want to even if your parents don't want you too because (if your young reading this one day you will move out and experience life) this is life and no one is an exception to life's harsh and amazing experiences. 

Your JOB is to protect that little bit of wisdom you will ever receive in your life called parents.  Yes people will give you knowledge in your life but the unique thing about a parents knowledge is that they know exactly what your capable of and they know all the building blocks that make you who you are even as you change and grow. So your parents advice or concerns will always be unique to anyone else's. With that said try your best to not let how your parents tell you something be the basis of your reaction (blowing a fuse and getting upset which leads to screaming). Read in between the lines that they say things and sometimes very passionately because they're worried about you.

It's okay to disagree with what your parents may say, you may live with your parents and to disagree is not an option. That's OKAY as frustrating as it may be always read in between the lines and question more of WHY they are saying it more then the HOW they are saying it.

You Can do way better than that!

Please, tell me why we as people can't step away from a terrible relationship. Whether your spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend has cheated on you, they're a liar, acts completely opposite around others and etc of the no-no's in relationships we just don't want to listen to that heavy feeling we carry in our hearts. You make excuses for this person but your slapping yourself in the face every time you do that. Why do I say that? Well think about it, when you make an excuse for someone u have to justify there actions in some way to come up with an excuse in the first place so essentially your saying with different wording "It's okay that my partner cheated (lies non stop, betrays me etc.) he/she did it because of this(some excuse)."  It's disrespectful to put yourself through that when you have a duty to make yourself happy.

“Being happy is not a right, but a duty. A duty to yourself. Waiving rights is one thing, but failing in your duty is downright irresponsible.”

-CLAMP

 The bottom line is this "partner" ruined the trust and it can never be undone...The main issue with this is that people like to hold on to the past instead of facing the present. "Oh when I fist met him/her he/she was this way and that way." You HAVE to ask yourself about "right now" at the moment when the honey moon phase is over, when that ugly side of them comes out where u clearly see this persons bad side and there flaws and when your relationship is going through hurdles. Did this person pass or fail the test in your relationship. What makes that person so different from you who chose the right decision?? What in your mind makes them excusable and then you might find all your answers webbed  in all of your emotions.  Are emotional responses don't help us make the right decisions most of the time.  Being in love is an emotional state, its easier said then done to break it off when you need too.  Also have you thought about the future, things will never be the same. It's like a nasty burn in the relationship and the scar will never go away.  You'll remember right down to every detail of how that scar came to be.  Every trust factor of the relationship will be projected from that one mistake or 2 or 3 mistakes depending on what they did and how many times.

 Was this the idea of happiness you had in mind. Was this your personal standard of happiness when you first started dating this person? I ask these questions because it's the things you forgot  to ask yourself when you decided to stay with the person or even take them back after you already broke up with them.

“Everyone finds happiness differently, but ultimately, happiness is a bargain with yourself. You need two things: action and sincerity. Effort must be rewarded. If you pile hardship upon hardship, overcome difficulty after difficulty and give yourself nothing in return, you violate your contract.”

-CLAMP

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