You Can do way better than that!

Please, tell me why we as people can't step away from a terrible relationship. Whether your spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend has cheated on you, they're a liar, acts completely opposite around others and etc of the no-no's in relationships we just don't want to listen to that heavy feeling we carry in our hearts. You make excuses for this person but your slapping yourself in the face every time you do that. Why do I say that? Well think about it, when you make an excuse for someone u have to justify there actions in some way to come up with an excuse in the first place so essentially your saying with different wording "It's okay that my partner cheated (lies non stop, betrays me etc.) he/she did it because of this(some excuse)."  It's disrespectful to put yourself through that when you have a duty to make yourself happy.

“Being happy is not a right, but a duty. A duty to yourself. Waiving rights is one thing, but failing in your duty is downright irresponsible.”

-CLAMP

 The bottom line is this "partner" ruined the trust and it can never be undone...The main issue with this is that people like to hold on to the past instead of facing the present. "Oh when I fist met him/her he/she was this way and that way." You HAVE to ask yourself about "right now" at the moment when the honey moon phase is over, when that ugly side of them comes out where u clearly see this persons bad side and there flaws and when your relationship is going through hurdles. Did this person pass or fail the test in your relationship. What makes that person so different from you who chose the right decision?? What in your mind makes them excusable and then you might find all your answers webbed  in all of your emotions.  Are emotional responses don't help us make the right decisions most of the time.  Being in love is an emotional state, its easier said then done to break it off when you need too.  Also have you thought about the future, things will never be the same. It's like a nasty burn in the relationship and the scar will never go away.  You'll remember right down to every detail of how that scar came to be.  Every trust factor of the relationship will be projected from that one mistake or 2 or 3 mistakes depending on what they did and how many times.

 Was this the idea of happiness you had in mind. Was this your personal standard of happiness when you first started dating this person? I ask these questions because it's the things you forgot  to ask yourself when you decided to stay with the person or even take them back after you already broke up with them.

“Everyone finds happiness differently, but ultimately, happiness is a bargain with yourself. You need two things: action and sincerity. Effort must be rewarded. If you pile hardship upon hardship, overcome difficulty after difficulty and give yourself nothing in return, you violate your contract.”

-CLAMP

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Playing it cool...

There is a certain cool you must always maintain when dealing with the man your truly interested in...A certain composure must never be broken...

Why you ask? Well the simple answer is respect.. There might be some men out there that like a women who is emotional but he won't respect you for it. When you hear things like  "She's a female" also known as she="emotion", its a cop out and excuse. That's his way of dealing with any of your "issues" placing them in the back of his head. "So me being emotional is the stereotype for women so it's okay to wear all of my emotions on my sleeve?"....I think not.  Let's try to keep our cool because emotion=weak femininity in a mans brain(<--------harsh reality put forth in aggressive words). Men only recognize there idea of strength and they respect it.

  You can cry to a man all day about how he hurt you but he isn't going to take you seriously unless your speaking with your head and not your emotions.  Love is a ruthless game and only the hearty with tolerance and endurance can bear the poker face in the toughest hour. 

Guys may tell you it's not true "Oh I love a woman who tells me everything that's she is feeling"  but when everything is set on the table you can only depend on yourself to feel better, for closure and to feel complete on a emotional level because men and women have enough trouble as it is understanding each other and even more so a man's greatest challenge is understanding a woman's emotions.

See it's not that he doesn't care its just not in his nature to soothe every need and wipe every tear and it's not in a woman's nature either to do the same for a man. Similarly, it's not in a woman's nature to understand a man's mind when it comes to how he views women, a woman's body or a mans highly sexual nature.

The point of this is to remind you to stay strong and hold the fort on your emotions...You can give in emotionally but still maintain enough of your emotions to where you can respect yourself and be dignified in life.

(I have nothing against men, but a woman gives alot of herself when she really loves someone and often too much too soon when it comes to emotions.)

What is Love?

Some people want to know what love is well here is the simple self made definition yes happiness care all of that is part of it but you want recognize those things without this definition of love embedded in your mind:

My opinion on love is that its the ultimate sacrifice it can only evolve with giving upon yourself there usually isn't a great love story without any sacrifice...did u e

ver notice that? Because to love someone is to give up everything and its sad because love is the exact opposite of what people ROMANTICIZE it to be and u rarely see a person receiving it in many ways love is a tragedy to those that find it and those that don't.....You cant appreciate the goodness of love without any sacrifice.

The Dating Game...

You say you want to be in her life, you say you want her as your wife you say alot of things that don't make sense. Your actions usually creates unhappiness deep within her core, but she shelves it in the back of her hearts attic like she didn't realize you didn't call her like you said you would. She'll treat every empty word as just your casual flirt. She's moving on she won't submit to feelings less then her own happiness She wont be bitter or stressed just wide awake like She's always been thanks for your strong coffee she's wide awake....