Please, tell me why we as people can't step away from a terrible relationship. Whether your spouse/boyfriend/girlfriend has cheated on you, they're a liar, acts completely opposite around others and etc of the no-no's in relationships we just don't want to listen to that heavy feeling we carry in our hearts. You make excuses for this person but your slapping yourself in the face every time you do that. Why do I say that? Well think about it, when you make an excuse for someone u have to justify there actions in some way to come up with an excuse in the first place so essentially your saying with different wording "It's okay that my partner cheated (lies non stop, betrays me etc.) he/she did it because of this(some excuse)." It's disrespectful to put yourself through that when you have a duty to make yourself happy.
“Being happy is not a right, but a duty. A duty to yourself.
Waiving rights is one thing, but failing in your duty is downright
irresponsible.”
-CLAMP
The bottom line is this "partner" ruined the trust and it can never be undone...The main issue with this is that people like to hold on to the past instead of facing the present. "Oh when I fist met him/her he/she was this way and that way." You HAVE to ask yourself about "right now" at the moment when the honey moon phase is over, when that ugly side of them comes out where u clearly see this persons bad side and there flaws and when your relationship is going through hurdles. Did this person pass or fail the test in your relationship. What makes that person so different from you who chose the right decision?? What in your mind makes them excusable and then you might find all your answers webbed in all of your emotions. Are emotional responses don't help us make the right decisions most of the time. Being in love is an emotional state, its easier said then done to break it off when you need too. Also have you thought about the future, things will never be the same. It's like a nasty burn in the relationship and the scar will never go away. You'll remember right down to every detail of how that scar came to be. Every trust factor of the relationship will be projected from that one mistake or 2 or 3 mistakes depending on what they did and how many times.
Was this the idea of happiness you had in mind. Was this your personal standard of happiness when you first started dating this person? I ask these questions because it's the things you forgot to ask yourself when you decided to stay with the person or even take them back after you already broke up with them.
“Everyone finds happiness differently, but ultimately,
happiness is a bargain with yourself. You need two things: action and
sincerity. Effort must be rewarded. If you pile hardship upon hardship,
overcome difficulty after difficulty and give yourself nothing in return, you
violate your contract.”
-CLAMP
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